Show Note #108 - Hear and Be Heard: The Healing Art of Conversing

Nicole Auquilla Maggio
Apr 7
3 min read

Updated: Apr 14

Dig Deep, Reach High l April 7th, 2025

#108 Hear and Be Heard: The Healing Art of Conversing

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Episode Overview:

In this episode, Nicole explores the transformative power of truly hearing—and being heard by—our partners. Drawing on personal experiences, expert insights, and practical strategies, she shows how mastering this fundamental communication skill can deepen trust, heal past hurts, and ignite the spark in any relationship.

What You’ll Discover:

Picture a cozy café or your favorite restaurant bar, laughing and planning with your spouse. That deep sense of connection comes from one simple act: being heard. Nicole shares how the quality of truly listening—and feeling heard—fuels intimacy, refreshment, and even healing in our closest relationships.
Communication is the lifeblood of any healthy relationship. Without it, misunderstandings fester, needs go unmet, and bonds weaken. Today, we’ll unpack why hearing and being heard is the cornerstone of trust, teamwork, and deeper romantic connection.
Nicole and her husband come from different linguistic and cultural backgrounds—she processes emotionally, he thinks things through. Early misunderstandings gave way to a set of guiding principles: minimal emotion at first, attentive listening, and the willingness to pause and reconnect later. Learn how they transformed challenging conversations into opportunities for growth.

Key Lessons and Strategies:

For Listeners (“Be a Good Hearer”):
- Prepare the Scene: Eliminate distractions or change venues to ensure full attention.
- Set Your Heart’s Intention: Listen without judgment, extending grace to whatever is shared.
- Be Patient: Zip your lips, let your partner fully express themselves, and discover deeper truths in their stories.
For Speakers (“Make Sure You’re Heard”):
- Be Honest: Speak your truth kindly, even when it’s painful.
- Educate with Kindness: Explain your needs and feelings clearly, as if teaching something new.
- Ask for Clarity: Pause to confirm understanding with questions like, “Does that make sense?”
Imagine every conversation sparking lasting change, whether over lunch or in bed. By mastering hearing and being heard, you can uplift your partner’s emotional health and deepen your bond. Nicole challenges you: if you could make your spouse feel lighter and more loved with one skill, wouldn’t you?Expert Strategies for Hears & Being Heard (Listeners and Speakers):